Many of us make New Year’s Resolutions. I make them every year. Healthier eating habits, more exercise, more time to myself…etc. You know, the typical stuff blah blah blah… But I am at a point where I feel like I have those down. I love to exercise. I love to eat healthy. I make time for myself and work-life balance is an important aspect of how I live my life.
But there I was, it was 4 am this morning, while making my first pot of coffee ( I know, I know), listening to my radio Pandora station. The song A Change is Gonna Come came on by Sam Cooke (lyrics video below). While I know this was originally written for social change in the civil rights era (and yes, this song gives me chills-his voice, his message…), I could not help but reflect on my personal life and my personal changes. As I begin to move past week 2 of 2018, what is it that I want to see change? I had already begun the process of cleansing my personal space of what I would consider junk and clutter. Another weekend and I will be there! Blog to come as part of this series. But last night, something happened. I saw a part of me that I did not like. This only happens when I am around or hear from certain people. So why allow this?
I have written about it before, but apparently, I needed a personal reminder. In a blog I wrote almost a year ago titled, Actions not Words, I stated the following:
When it comes to relationships and friendships, there are those that you always have (or had) to work a little harder at. Why? Because you want(ed) to believe in them. You say to yourself, this is the time they will finally change. This is the time they will finally keep their word. Only to be disappointed again and again and…
Sometimes, the never ending waiting takes a toll. Wish them well, pray for them, but know it is OK to start your NEW chapter. Don’t be so hard on yourself especially if you know you were a great friend. Make this your year and be with people who make a difference in you life. And remember…
Love is not words, it’s actions, and love isn’t feelings, it’s a decision.
So move on. It might be hard to walk away, but it doesn’t compare to your pain of staying. Don’t force friendships and relationships. Understand that people change and may now longer be compatible with your life.
What YOU allow WILL continue.
Surround yourself with people who bring out the BEST in you.
Surround yourself with people who make you SMILE and LAUGH.
Surround yourself with people who make a DIFFERENCE in your life.
Surround yourself with people who you can TRUST.
Surround yourself with people who TREAT YOU GOOD.
Surround yourself with people who CELEBRATE you.
Surround yourself with people who KEEP THEIR WORD.
I needed to remind myself of my own words today. WHAT I ALLOW WILL CONTINUE.
So this year, I need to disconnect from things and people that always make me so unhappy. This is my cleansing year!
- Cleanse myself of toxic people & energy
- Cleanse my personal space of material clutter
- Continue to cleanse my body of toxic foods
In 2018, I want to nourish my mental and physical well being. Have you ever evaluated the relationships in your life and what they bring to you? What do you all want to feel in your relationships with your friends and loved ones? As for me, I just want to feel alive! I want them to be filled with laughter, support, understanding, respect and above all, LOVE!
I read an article from Lakshmi Raman and she ends it with:
I pray that you have the courage to let go of the past
I pray that you make room for your best life to unfold.
I pray that you live a life beyond your wildest imagination.
Yes indeed. I will pray for these blessings to come my way and to you all as well.
Fuel The Soul